Dec 31 2010
Highlights from some of the many helpful articles on the Peacemaker Ministries website for some great weekend reading. Enjoy!
by Ken Sande, President of Peacemaker Ministries. Many pastors have extraordinary gifts in areas of preaching and teaching, yet struggle to connect personally and gain the trust of their church members. In this article, Ken Sande unpacks the issue of approachability and how to cultivate it as a church leader.
“Craig and Jeff shared many characteristics: excellent education, solid theology, and a passion to teach and preach. But there was one major difference between them: month in and month out, Jeff’s flock had found him to be consistently approachable, while Craig’s congregation saw him as being so distant and above them that they gave up coming to him with their life concerns. Craig was a fine preacher, but he had failed to earn the relational passport needed to shepherd the flock God had entrusted to his care.” Read more…
PeaceLink: True Stories: Getting Fired
Getting fired, especially in a way that seems completely unjust, can feel like the ultimate slap in the face. Retribution is the standard reaction, but this story shows how going a different route—conciliation, humility, confession, and forgiveness—honors God and often brings about true peace.
“Without meaningful communication, their frustration grew until it erupted in a heated argument at the end of a long, hot day. Tempers flared, and soon Betty said, “That’s it! I’m tired of you always telling me how to run my company. You’re fired!” Read more…
PeaceLink: Saving Face and Saving Grace
By Ken Sande, President of Peacemaker Ministries. This article contains stories and Ken’s reflections from a trip to Taiwan in early 2007.
“She told me that she had been so excited by what she had learned about biblical peacemaking that she rushed home with a copy of the new Mandarin translation of The Peacemaker and gave it to her husband. “You’ve got to read this,” she told him.
“I don’t have time,” her husband replied, “I’m way too busy.”
Mary persisted. “But, you’ve got to,” she said, “It’s life changing.”
“I said I don’t have time,” he told her again. “Don’t bother me with it.”
At this point, Mary told me, the argument would have escalated–over peacemaking, of all things–and would have ended with each retreating to their corners, wounded, with no place to go, no way to work through the hurts they had inflicted on each other.
This time, however, Mary did something different. Remembering what she had learned at the conference, she changed course and said, “I’m sorry. I shouldn’t have pushed you. I can see you are busy and you don’t have time. Please forgive me.”
Mary had never expected what happened next.” Read more…